Narcissistic Love versus Unconditional Love | The Happy Sensitive
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Narcissistic abuse has the power to hold its victim for long periods of time. There are phases of this abuse which alternate between rage and peace, which…
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More positive less negative will equal a happy life
Bitch it out
Only to look like a bitch
And worse to feel like one too
If I spent the amount of time and energy on the things that are positive as I do complaining about the negative – maybe there would be exactly that :
More positive =
<+>- = 😊
So today I’m gonna be super mindful of what I’m focusing on and the things I say
And try my very best to not complain
The pursuer-distancer pattern
Therapist Dr. Harriet Lerner summarizes the pattern like this.
A partner with pursuing behavior tends to respond to relationship stress by moving toward the other. They seek communication, discussion, togetherness, and expression. They are urgent in their efforts to fix what they think is wrong. They are anxious about the distance their partner has created and take it personally.